Alaska, It sounds like you have a "zero tolerance" policy when it comes to a spouse having an affair. It sounds like your initial approach is an ultimatum. There is no taking a stand for you.
I just had to respond to this. "There is no taking a stand for you?" Does that mean standing for my marriage?? Read my posts front to back, you'll see the stand I took. BIG one. NOW, I STAND for ME, and my children, above EVERYONE else in this world.
My breakup never involved infidelity on either part.
But if my wife wasn't sleeping at home, I WOULD want to know why. If your wife can't afford the $1620/month for a Motel, doesn't it tweak your curiosity as to where she is?? If you found out she is spending 90% of her nights with another man, what would your approach be then??
