Life goes on, and it ain't about Job

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Ford;
Thanks, yes alot of it makes perfect sense. I am not sure I was using "sick" in a mental health way, but as I think about it, maybe I was. I initially thought confused, unsure, etc. but 6 of one half dozen of the other, it is still making excuses for her and enabling her bad behavior. To me, the kids complicate things so much. I would have loved to have told her tough sh!t about the reschedule on the weekend, but at the same time I really feel like I need to keep the kids away from this POS as much as I possibly can, how do you split the difference there?

I have felt like she is still there, just below the surface, and she still crys at the drop of a dime, but that could all be her doing what she knows will get to me. What I really can't justify is her looking me in the eye and telling me she agreed that the kids should not meet OM, only to find out that she had told D12 less then a week prior that she wanted D to meet OM. Do I call her on it?

I really don't subsidize the bad behavior, since our discussion about finances and the joint account, she has been very careful to make deposits and not spend more. She has never asked for money, and the closest I have come to accomidating the affair had been the afore mentioned weekend reschedule.

I have told her from the beginning that I don't agree with the choices she has made, that they are hateful, hurtful, and wrong. I guess I just feel stuck, like I am just feeling my way along and reacting when I have an opportunity, but really not doing anything proactive.