Looking Up

[COG]

Heywyre,

I know he is feeling a lot better about our situation (but I'm not - I am really down about it for whatever reason).

Well you have'nt been laid in how many years now? That's cause to be down a little. It's OK honey! There's always tomorrow.

I said I appreciated it but I was a big girl and I would be fine, I had a lot of things to do and might even go for a drive. That is when the antenna went up "what, a drive by yourself?"

Oh there's a little intrigue. That's a good thing. You got him wondering.

Just a moment about the OW. Your H is 60 something wright and the OW in her 20's. Now think logically here for a moment. Do ya really think that's a happening thing. Yes he might be enamored with her, but you don't have to worry about her. He knows where he belongs. Now you might make some ground if you can knock that boulder sized chip off your shoulder.

Anyway, it seemed like he didn't want to go to his "fight night" with the boys so I said, well you have to make a decision (because his friend was going to pick him up)

Now here's a SMALL thing. Why did you feel it necessary to say"well you have to make a decision". Are you his mommy? He might want you to be, but try to stay out of that trap. Let him live his life and don't take on the duty of savior. Like I said, it's a small thing.

He kept insisting that he felt guilty about leaving me and perhaps he should just stay home, we could have a drink and just spend the night together (which is something I would have LOVED to do) but I kept encouraging him to go, saying "it will do you good to have some time out with the guys"

How about a response like this next time. "Well, I think it would be great for you to stay home, but only if you promise to screw my brains out, otherwise, I'm going for a drive to clear my head and I'll see you after the fight."

I have managed to stay clear of saying anything about finding the OW's webpage

That's good, and let's try to keep it that way, AND, don't snoop anymore.

However, I do think I need to dump so I will be visiting the boards and perhaps a one-on-one with the psychologist to allow me to air my thoughts about this whole thing.

Follow your intuition on that, don't leave it bottled up inside. You might explode like me!

Hang in there!

Love,

COG