Mom, I'm very sorry to hear about your dog. The mlc crisis tends to destroy everything good that these guys ever had. They tend to blaze through the forest and leave nothing standing. It affects everyone and not just themselves. For this I'm sorry.
As for your h losing his job, he could very well have helped that situation along. Mom, they don't care about what happens to anyone else but themselves. It's all about themselves and they feel they can get by on little of nothing during the crisis. Why? Because they are thinking like kids and don't understand that the bills are still coming in and yes, divorce is very expensive. They aren't thinking of child support or house payments, etc. They are only thinking of ditching everything to have their freedom once again.
I think you have a good lawyer and he sounds very understanding. You might want to ask him about your h coming in now and asking for spousal support since he's not working. I don't trust the thinking of mlcers.
Mom, I'm so very sorry that you are having to deal w/this crap. It's not easy for anyone, but especially for those who have children that they need to be a parent to, or should I say be both parents to.
BTW, I would sit back and wait to see if he tells you he's not working. Don't tip your hand just yet. He may then think you are spying on him. Do not discuss this w/his family either. Sit quietly and the answers will drop into your lap very soon.
Hugs to you and your little ones.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
