Bull. He intimated an affair. Burgbud and Lou fell for it too.
Cobra, what I was implying to Chrom is, therer is a void in Mrs Chrom's life and if he could find out what she was doing till 2AM on the internet, it might help him understand what is going on in her mind.
Bingo, Lou. Staying up to the wee hours of the morning on the internet can be an indication of unhappiness. Often the HD partners here aren't aware of how deeply unhappy their LD spouse may be (and that can often be because the LD spouse hasn't expressed it). I'm sure you would rather be spending your time in pleasant exchanges with your wife. Some of your time on the 'net is spent pursuing info that might help your situation, trying to share with others in similar situations, or just avoiding laying in the bed feeling estranged and sad while your wife is just on the other side.
I spent a lot of time on the 'net during our hardest time - it was a form of distraction and withdrawal. Time and emotional energy spent online was time & energy I didn't expend into my marriage. I wasn't looking for relationships, but I was moving ever further emotionally away from my husband.
I was reading marriagebuilders and NOP was reading here. Initially, neither of us discussed what we were doing. At some point we began sharing some of the situations we were reading about. A "listen to this one" sort of thing. It actually opened up a dialog for us. We could talk about other people's marital situations and since it wasn't directly about us, it wasn't volatile. That made it somewhat easier to eventually move into real discussions about ourselves.
Chrome's wife would appear to be in a very vulnerable place as indicated by her late-night time online. It could be an indication of how just how unhappy she is right now. Might be she's sick of being supermom and is kvetching about that, might be she's talking to people about sexual issues, might be she's utterly weary with her life at this time and just can't bring herself to talk to anyone she actually knows about it, and it might be that she's flirting online. Could be a myriad of things, all of which are potential vulnerabilities.
And if Chrome can find out what she's doing, it may be just the key to open up their relationship.
MrsNOP -
PS. Burg, you didn't make me feel defensive, I was just categorizing my past responses for you.
