My Heart's Journey into the Unknown

[COG]

Nic,

I am reall glad you are finally accepting what we've all known all along. The OW is not even in the same universe as you. You blow her away. Your H just needs someone he can save and control. He does'nt know what to do with an intelligent, beautiful, determined, confident, and did I say beautiful, WOMAN, like you.

Please forgive me for sounding like a snob, but I do feel better now.

I feel better, FOR YOU! She does'nt even come close Nic.

Now a couple of red flags I see here.

I managed to pump S5 for some info re. ow. He's so innocent, little sweetie!

Please be VERY careful about enlisting your kid's to be spy's for you. That will backfire big time. It puts them in a very uncomfortable, insecure position, because they love both you AND your H. AND they probably like OW, at least for now. So it just puts stress on them that they will not know how to deal with.

I recomend you check out http://www.divorcecare.com. The best thing about that program is it'll help you avoid pitfalls of D, like enlisting kids.

I had really been feeling like I was ready to meet someone new, till I found out about ow and had my relapse. Now, I'm wondering about that again.

That's one of the pitfalls. Do not go there! Get your D, get yourself past the rebound, THEN go shopping. Three months for every year of M before you start dating again. Until then, go do group things, have some friends, but you'll not be doing your future acquaintance any favors by bringing them into your life when it's still in emotional upheaval.

Keep fighting Nic, I'm proud of you. You are doing great!

Love,

COG