So yesterday after Easter Dinner with her folks (which was nice) she wanted to go look at some commercial buildings for sale in town. We're thinking about opeing up shop there and she loves the town.
So she starts showing me around town (she grew up there). Where she went to school, where her friends lived, and all that stuff. I realize immediately that she's really enjoying showing me around so I go along with it asking questions and such and generally prolonging the experience.
So I realize how important it is to her to "know" something. To "teach" me something I don't know. We were kinda doing an informal case study of the town based upon her knowledge of it.
This is something that has come up repeatedly as I realize how she wants her input to be important but I'm hard to keep up with.
I have made efforts to make her ideas important and when she comes up with a good one I make a point to take it into consideration and dwell on it and bring it up again later "remember that great idea you had honey, that would really work here"
So again the issue of her feeling important in a business sense is very important. It's been a tough issue especially when she decides she's going to become knowledgable in fields I already am. Kind of self defeating in that respect as she continually puts herself in the position of learning from me and doesn't get that feeling of independence (or independent worth) she wants.
So on another note she wore something very unusual for her yesterday and I certainly made a point to tell her right away how beautiful she looked and how I loved how she looked in colorful clothing. The first time she wouldn't accept the complement. Did her typical smart a$$ reply. But I decided to keep it up. Third time around she accepted the comment and I could tell it made her feel good. I think I have given up to quickly in the past when it comes to compliments and her shooting me down. Never realized how much her shooting me down was in response to her own low self esteem. Now I know to keep it up until she believes me.
