I feel torn between giving him time to show me the changes are for real (feelings follow action) and the compulsion to protect myself.
Aud, Just my two cents here....Can't you do both. Give him the chance to show you that he is changing for good as well as protect yourself. The art of detatching goes both ways here. Not only do we have to protect ourselves from the negatives emotions that our WAS's cause but also the good emotions that they cause as well. We need to constantly remind ourselves to just take everything with a grain of salt and remember that everything can change at the drop of a hat.
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My weekend felt like it was from a dream--H has moved home, took me out on a date, spent most of the weekend with me and the kids, went to church yesterday, has been thoughtful and affectionate and loving.
I am so happy that you had a great weekend Aud. It is awsome to see things that SEEM to be turning in yours anf your families favor.
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So why am I waking each morning with anxiety in my heart?
It is your wall you have up that he is starting to chizel away at (which is a good thing in my opinion) However, You still need to be careful for your sake and keep yourself protected until YOU feel that it is safe to let him back in. Remember, Actions speak louder that words....
Just my 2 cents though.
Live up the happy moments that you are having right now...Then store them and move on to the next day and see what it will bring...
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
