Secondly, quit feeding your pain. Many of us-especially those we would label "drama queens" (and kings)-need to experience pain in order to feel alive. For others, much of our identity is wrapped up in being a victim. The next time you begin feeling pain, catch yourself. Tell yourself, "I'm thinking of him again." The simple act of noticing how you feed your pain will begin to dissolve it immediately. Next, do whatever is necessary to not let the pain mushroom into a full-blown despair. You may need to distract yourself or remember all the good you have in your life.
Simon M R !
I feel like that was written to me. Ugh! It took me a long time to realize that I was behaving just that way. Yes, I played victim, I thought I would die, I thought life was over. But oneday I grew up (not much) but just enough to understand that I can only victimize myself. If our MLC'ing spouse is always playing "Victim" and the LBS is playing "Victim" there are no winners. Just as their head needs to come out of the fog, so does ours!
Your amazing Simon.
Thank you so much sweetie to post such lifting things, I hope it helps you also!
Muah!
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
