Hey Nicola ~ Another line out of the book How to have an affair/get a divorce for dummies! "I am trying to make this as easy as possible". PLEASE!!! I don't know how many times I have heard my h say that to me. The only person it seems to be easy for is him!
And I know I am better then h's ow. They will surely regret this but unfortunately I think it is going to be too late in some of our cases.
Don't worry about the conversation you deserve to lose your cool. You said what you felt not time to move past it.
Much Love! Christy
Christy M: 31 H: 33 Married ~ 13 years S12 S8 Bomb 10/05 supposedly ended A 2nd bomb 12/30/05 Separated 01/06 I filed 6/12/07 ~ new ow 3wks after moving out http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1094955&page=0#Post1094955
The sermon in church today talked about how much we let fear of what others think of us rule our lives. This really made an impression on me. I know that I worry too much about what others think of me. I worry that H will never see what he has lost and that he will always hate me.
But I know in my head that he doesn't hate me, he is just trying convince himself that he hates me. This too shall pass and I can't worry anymore about what others think of me.
You have nothing to worry about there is only one that you should think about what they think of you and He is not of this earth.
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Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
I'm so proud of you, I think I shall have a drink in your honor!
Hate to also sound like a snob, but she sounds like such the pathetic piece of trash. Not only should you look FAB when you meet her, but do talk slowly and spell the big words for her...
You know, in all my years on this board, I have seldom seen an OW who was better than the LBS, and surprisingly often, the OW isn't even remotely in the same class.
Even my H's OW, who had the advantages of being younger (18 years!), educated (a nurse to my MD degree, but still), and Asian (fantasy of H's, probably related to a failed college romance with a Korean girl) - well, H admitted afterwards that she wasn't that attractive (Chinese peasant face - he said he thought to himself "why couldn't I have fallen in love with a prettier girl"! H thinks I'm still prettier) and of course, couldn't hold a candle to me in the intellectual arena - or in bed, for that matter!!!!
I think my H's choice in affair partner mostly had to do with proximity and her predatory nature, but again - I'm just always surprised how the OW is usually less than the LBS in so many ways.
I think my H's choice in affair partner mostly had to do with proximity and her predatory nature, but again
I know that is the case with H. She was handy and more than available when he was questioning his choices so he ran with it rather than admit he made a mistake. Now the two of them get to talk about what a B*tch I am and how right H was to leave me.
Elle,
Good to hear from you! How are things going with your H? Hope you had a Happy Easter.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
So, it's good to see i am not the only one that went on a rampage this week la la la.....Will wonders never cease?
I want to see what my OW looks like. I guess as this point i am just doing a scientif research experiment to see if she's as ugly as I imagine. Hmmm....will have to go into super stealth mode when Lissie comes down and get the Zoom going on my camera.....then i will post both our pics on photo bucket along with a poll...Wife or OW
Its hard to stay bitter forever
Love ya sweetie
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Jeanette ~ love your idea for a contest. I can already tell you who the winner would be.
BA ~ I will try to do some more great stuff so you can get wasted next time!
H just dropped the kids off; he kept them overnight. He used to have them every Sunday night, but then I stopped b/c I thought it was better for them to be home on a school night. Well, lo and behold, they SLEPT OVER at his girlfriend's house!! ON EASTER!
S5 told me that he and D10 and H slept in one room, and gf and her son slept in another. Yeah, right. And nothing happened during the night, right?
Am I the only one who thinks he's a complete IDIOT? Is this okay behaviour? No seriously, is it?
He's been dating this girl for about four months now (supposedly, but who knows?). He sees the kids one day and night a week, and during that time, they spend a good part of the time in the day with ow. Now, they're sleeping over. Does this sound a bit fast to anyone else? WTH is he thinking?
I'm worried that my children are going to get really attached. I know they like ow, and I know S5 really likes her S5. But I don't know what I can do. Nothing I guess.
Life isn't about finding yourself; it's about creating yourself My thread: Trusting God's Plan
She's not educated - She doesn't have a great job ($ wise at least) - She has an apt in a very working-class part of town - H must seem like her knight in shining armour: he's charming, good job, house in a trendy area (soon to be mine, but still), smart, interesting, etc. - She is trying so hard to impress him through my kids. This annoys me, but now it makes sense: she thinks she's found the man of her dreams, and he is going to rescue her.
H is a vain man, always has been He will be very happy to have someone who thinks he is wonderful
Nicola I could've used these words myself about my H and his OW. I too have been thinking about meeting other men but I won't act on it while I am M.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Again, the statement I repeated to myself and told H about his trashy Owomen.
"I have worked hard and made tough and responsible choices in my life so that I would NEVER be compared to women like this. I will be DAMNED if I start now."
la la la.....Will wonders never cease?