V you have such great advice and always make one feel better. I have always been the solid one and these last 5 years have really used up my reserve energy that I could always fall back on. When he calls should I just talk the business. Sometimes I just think if he did come back would he just do this over again. We are a part so much be cause of his job I wonder if he will ever want to work on it. He has told me that if he couldn't be married to me he wouldn't ever get married again. but then he also told me he couldn't work on our relationship because he had no time for it and has had her all the time. It is such a gut renching experience. I think that being around some one for 27yrs and 25 years have been married even thru the bad times we have always remained there for each other and friends. I think that is the problem he knows that I am always here. That is the hard part. When he had the last A ( I think the start of the MLC) It started in 2002 she was the greatest and finally the real her came out. She stalked me for a long time. Then he begged me to come back. then I swore I wouldnot do this again but here I am . I am a gluten for punishment it has taken a toll on me. I like 2940 hit rock bottom. I think I was so hurt that I had let my guard down and he slam dunked me again. I think this A started as EM and then after I found out and went beserk it has turned into a PA. Both of them are women that I have known. Right now she can do nothing wrong. even though she just sent her daughter to her dad tolive with her brothers. How could she not want her kids? I am not going to think about her but its hard thinking she is the one that is replacing me. I guess I am just rambling now. Thank you so much for being here. I can sure use the support.
You are right I think I will read some MLC threads. Sometimes they never get over it for a long time. His own family really has noticed it. His mom can't figure out what is going thru his head. He thinks that this OW is ok even though we are married because we have been living apart. I thought we were living a part for the jobs. Life is so complicated. The OW goes after married men and she has been after his brothers before because she has always wanted to be married into my H family. She is a different w and she has no morals and conscience either. Will eventually the real her come out? It has been going on for almost 8 months.
He did this at Christmas too. I had told him that I wanted to have a nice christmas in case this wasour last. He couldn't have been better except he would have to go call her or txt her. It gives the boys false hope too. The are old enough and thye know about what is going on. They don't know what to do either. They don't like it. My older son said it looks bad on him and us. HE said one day he is going to sit down with his dad and talk to him. I told him right now it wouldn't do him any good right now but drive a wedge between them. Don't know if that is the right advice or not.
Flicka,
Thanks for being there. IT sure is tough being in these situations. I can only hope that her other colors will come out. but she has a plan to get him. She has had one for years to get him or one of his brothers. She is a wicked person and will stop at nothing to get what she wants. I can only this the obsessive person will come out. but how long can she out the act on and she must please him. She has been making him shirts. He didn't wear one down here this time. I was going to say something. I want to hate both of them for what they are putting me and my family thru. He has told me that I am to caring and kind to a fault.
Well enough of this rambling. I have to get ready and go to work. Thanks a gain for talking to me it really helps me. I live in the country so it is hard. You are pretty lonely. Even though I have really good friends. Actually his family are really close to me but sometimes it helps to tell someone who you don't know to see what your response is to the different situations.
