OLIVE!!!! You are a great mom to protect your child. I can see how you are so mad because OW is starting to encroach on the exclusiveness (sp?) of your relationship with your child also. HUGS from me.
Having said that, I hope you have clamed down a bit from your posting. Take a few deep breaths. Stay cool when you talk to H. I think it is reasonable to set boundaries regarding interaction with your child. And you can deliver that message in a calm, business like matter. Leaving part may be you can leave out for next time???
I am not good at words so not sure if this is good to say. Just please take care and know that we are all here to share your pain (especially I am sure some have gone through the same)
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
In through your nose and out through your mouth. As an expert at flying off the handle and losing it, don't do it in an out of control way, that is weak. Be strong and do it like OC says.
Smile and wave
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
Olive, o' my god...my H pulled the same s**t during X'mas. OW got my D2 an outfit and he lied about picking it up from mall himself. I busted him b/c he was working at an office that was 40 min from that mall on gift receipt. He refused to return it and he even exchanged it for the same exact style in a larger size for my D2. That tells me that he really values what she picked for my D2. A$$hole! I understand completely. I can't tolerate the BS either!!! I discarded the cute jacket!
Me: 36 WAH: 35 S1: 5, S2: 3, D: 2 Married 13 yrs Bomb dropped Nov. '06 H filed D papers Feb. 1, '07 H nows says OW is GF since April '07
I actually was very calm when I talked to H about boundaries. Said he is not to accept gifts for our child from OW. He said fine and didn't even snap back at me. Later he asks why I can't just believe him... And, I told him to look me in the eye and tell me again that he got it for her. Well, then he backtracks and makes some excuse about how he bought almost all of it. Then, he tells me that he doesn't owe me an explanation anyway. I started to get mad and said, well that's part of a M.. explaining yourself to your spouse... That's why this marriage is over.. Uh Oh.. going well until then... Conversation over!*sigh*
I will discuss the moving out part later this week. I see the C (for right now H and I are both seeing her for IC; she WAS our MC) this week and will talk to her about it. She asked me if I had thought about leaving last time I went and I told her "no" at the time. So, this time I think she and I need to talk about how to approach this.
It's really too bad.. We had such a great time on our date on Saturday night. PLUS - OW is crying about how much she wants to be with my H. I just can't take the lying BS any more...
