Can't agree with you more. It is ashame and heartbreaking that our kids have to bear this pain. My H says the exact same things about "it's not about them. The kids will be fine. If I'm happy then they will be too. I am doing the right things for my kids." Yadda yadda yadda... There is just no way around it when the WAS don't want to be married anymore. No crying, begging from us or pain from kids will change their minds. We all need to survive and be happy productive individuals. Hope to get there taking the express train. :)o

Last edited by iluvme; 04/09/07 05:17 AM.
Me: 36
WAH: 35
S1: 5, S2: 3, D: 2
Married 13 yrs
Bomb dropped Nov. '06
H filed D papers Feb. 1, '07
H nows says OW is GF since April '07