Penny, Hi, I just wanted to post and let you know that I feel many of the same things. My H and I have been married 20 years and together 24 years. We have 2 Ds ages 15 and 18. I'm thankful that I still have one of them at home. The oldest is in college, but I talk to her daily and see her most every weekend. I'm so thankful for them, I try not to talk to them about our situation, but it is their love and support get me through. I can see that your sons do the same for you. I too am like you. I am so afraid of being alone, but I am getting stronger as I see that you are. We have to work on ourselves, and we will be okay. I know it's easier said than done, but that's the only way, detachment. As everyone says treat them like a friend, although all you want to do do is hold them. I know that I sure have had my meltdowns, but I just try to recoup and keep on DB. You are doing fine.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon