S15's schedule for next year's classes arrived in the mail a few days ago and I'm dreading looking at it with him. He has had the best year ever academically and socially. He is just thriving here. He plays a sport that he cannot play where his dad is working.
I will be leaving friends and connections that have somehow held me up-- and let me be. I will be leaving a S23 and new grandson.
If it means our family can be together, I haven't a doubt in my mind that it's the right thing to do. IF we can piece this together we'll never regret it. I believe that.
But.
My furnace stopped working this morning and it took one phone call to turn something uncomfortable and overwhelming into an opportunity to see how much I am cared for. Thanks to my neighbors I can type without mittens!
After determining they couldn't fix it, they brought electric heaters and a torpedo(?) over. They went to get kerosene and keep coming over to make sure I'm keeping the place properly ventilated and such. I have the number of "a buddy in the business" to call in the morning. As they commented on how the house is coming along and how beautiful it will be... it is so much to leave.
Instead of house hunting over the phone and investigating schools and restaurants we want to check out when we finally get to live together again, shouldn't we be waiting to see how the actual *moving-out-of-the-OW's-apartment-thing* goes?
Is the timeline is being forced by the need to settle in S15 into a new home before school starts in the fall?
Would it be better DB-ing to open up that class schedule and talk about the trip to Washington DC that he's looking forward to with his government class? He's a great kid, he wants us happy.....but he is afraid that we'll move down there and his Dad will hurt me/us/his brother, friends, etc. again.
Should I try to deflect "future (as in 3-4 months from now) talk" for while or keep dreaming and planning together? The long phone calls as he describes each room from the paint color to the treefrogs in the hot tub have been priceless.
Do I get the house ready for the market and finish it in a cost-effective way, geared toward the most common buyers tastes or with the flooring and railing that was the dream we started when we began to build it?
