ask him to leave?--men especially

[Elmrjfud]

breton39,

i am no pro here so just my opinion. lay it on the line for him. be as clear as you can but not condescending, us guys are dense. even if you think you are being clear, he's probably not hearing what your saying. if you love him and want to be with him let him know that, but don't compromise on what you need from him. again, be clear as you can, we men are a stupid lot in many cases.... if i had really processed and understood what my WAS was saying to me i would not be separated right now... she was not clear enuff, she complained about many things over time but never told me that she was unhappy with me and that our relationship was at risk. if i had really understood what was on her mind i would have done many things differently.... she compromised her emotions and sugarcoated alot of what was on her mind... i guess she didn't want to hurt my feelings, but now she is killing me bcz i didn't read between the lines...