ask him to leave?--men especially

[forward]

M: 39
H: 42
D1
Married 14 years in August
October 06: ILYBINILWY
OW: 22 (and a psychological nightmare, from all indications)

I am F and have earned more than H through entire marriage, at times carrying him so he could pursue artistic interests.

Now I am at a point where I am tired of supporting him, esp. as he has started running around with OW. I am thinking of asking him to leave because it's hard for me to be detached, for one thing, and for another I think he's cake eating.

I feel like some guys understand this better than women and would be especially interested in their POV.