COG - I am not about to say "I am sorry for what is happening to you" because, quite frankly I think it is about time you exploded. And, perhaps this will be the turning point for you. Like you said, at least she has admitted it, it is out in the open now and perhaps that will be the first step for her and you to move forward
Take care - all the best to you both
p.s. trust me, I know what you are dealing with. My H would NEVER admit that HE was the one with the problem and you all know how many problems he really does have
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Quote: ------------------------------------------------------------- Well I took awhile to calm down and then I called and asked her if she could talk. So we took a drive. I told her I was'nt done with our M, but I was done being [censored] on, and if this was the way it's going to be then I AM done with the M. I laid out a few times recently when she was rude. I told her that I admit I screwed up in the M, but I'd changed, made amends, and I'm DONE being [censored] on for it. -------------------------------------------------------------
OUTSTANDING!
I hope that you left the chair up to her to get it home or not.
You just took your first step, and the correct one - boundaries, and you don't even have a plan yet. Not bad.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Thanks for the input and support. W played a little catch-up this weekend. She was as warm and friendly as I've seen her in a long time. It's clear that Friday definately had an impact on her. She's tired of our M the way it is too, and she does'nt want it to end either. So I'm going to ebb, instead of flow. I'm going to push. I'm just going to keep being as open and honest as I can be, and push for a M that's right, and good. I'm not going to stand for anything less anymore.
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I hope that you left the chair up to her to get it home or not.
Heck yes! I'm not touching that chair. But I'll be honest, I kind of blew it last night after a great day together, I pursued her for sex. But ya know what, there's NOTHING wrong with ME! What healthy H would'nt want to ML to his W after a great day together? What heathly W would'nt want the same? So one of us is not healthy, and it isn't me! So I did gently apologize for pursuing her, but I will NEVER apologize for my desire. BTW, she did apologize for her LACK of desire.
I'm gonna kick ass and take names. No FEAR!! I am on the path of righteousness. Our M is blessed, it's beautiful, it's spiritually gifted, and it's about time I give my life for it. I've been patient long enough, it's time to push forward, accept nothing less than what's good. I don't want to loose the M, but it's wrong to stand in this sitch the way it is. Something is going to have to give. Either way, I'm at peace because I'm on the RIGHT path. God's will be done!
Love,
COG
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...&Number=660444&page=2#Post660444
Congrats COG - I think you are on the right path, wherever it might lead you
Take care
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Well the balance of power has begun to shift, MY WAY!! Too bad they don't have a smiley face for determination because I'd have put one right here. I fear nothing, and I'm willing to go "all in" on this one. I'm a gambler, risk taker, fearless warrior. I won't stop until either I have what I want, or I'm dead.
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and you don't even have a plan yet.
Sometimes in battle, the only plan you need is balls and braun! But anytime you want to discuss a plan, I'm all ears.
I brought her flowers this morning, hows that for balls and braun? Told her I just want and need nothing but the best from our M, she said she does too.
Oh this is going to be GOOD people! You guys are gonna witness a miracle. She's comin around, she's gonna fall like the Roman's. I am OUT of the pit, out of the [censored], on the mountain top and I am screaming out loud! They don't have a smiley face for that either.
Love,
COG
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...&Number=660444&page=2#Post660444
I can hardly wait to hear the details (try not to be TOO graphic eh? - lol)
COG you have been one of my biggest inspirations on this board and I will be following your progress intentively for sure.
Way to go COG !!! I'm cheering for ya!!
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Quote: ---------------------------------------------------------- I'm gonna kick ass and take names. No FEAR!! I am on the path of righteousness. Our M is blessed, it's beautiful, it's spiritually gifted, and it's about time I give my life for it. I've been patient long enough, it's time to push forward, accept nothing less than what's good. I don't want to loose the M, but it's wrong to stand in this sitch the way it is. Something is going to have to give. Either way, I'm at peace because I'm on the RIGHT path. God's will be done! ----------------------------------------------------------
Amen!
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
\0/ \0/ \0/ I am so excited for you.... Wow this does not sound like the Cog I have come to care so much about.... GOOD FOR YOU! I am sooooo proud of you. I peeked in the forum for a minute and so far what I have read is awesome.... keep kicking a$$. God bless....
Told her I just want and need nothing but the best from our M, she said she does too. 