Okay, here goes. Practical advice? Maybe, maybe not. Here is what worked with my kooky husband.
Everytime he wanted to sell the house, after he filed for divorce, I would say "my lawyer hasn't advised me what to do yet." Actually, I used that for almost everything. I received more speeches than I care to remember about how "your lawyer is your advisor, not your decision maker" and my personal favorite "jaysus, j, you don't know how to do anything!"
Be prepared for the snark. It may come, hot and heavy.
Before he filed for divorce, and wanted to talk about selling the house, I would say "that depends." Depends on what? On what the future holds. He put that in his pipe and smoked it more than once.
did this help with not divorcing, or help with his MLC??? I sincerely doubt it, but it did remove me from interaction with the kookiness. Any relief from the kookiness is greatly appreciated.
Please prepare yourself, as MoonDog said much more nicely, for an ow. For vast amounts of stupidity. For debt. Neglect of children. Any time you say to yourself "MY husband would never do that," smack yourself upside the head. He would, and he probably will.
Sorry. Not trying to rain on your parade. Dang, I sound negative, don't I?
Sweetie, we've each been where you are, and we have hope that each of us will come out of this, wiser, stronger, faster. Because we will. And you will too.
