How do you deal w/ H spending time or worse spending the nite @ OW's house?
I guess while I have been "attempting" to detach my H seems to believe that I am now seeing someone too. So, he seems to be punishing whenever I ask him to stay w/ the kids while I run some errands. Today, as I was leaving to go run errands H said "tell him I said hello and I will see you tomorrow". I said yeah, ok as I was backing up the car. Litttle did I know he was serious about not seeing me until tomorrow AND take the kids! I know this b/c he took the kids toothbrushes. Other times when I leave him w/ the kids he has taken them out to dinner w/ her. You see I feel like how can I detach like this????? H started going out and staying out all nite again and like this morning I did not ask where he was or even start a fight. I just carried on the house cleaning and act as if. H also started sleeping in the other room twice this past week, so I thought ok I will show him that I can accomodate him even better..I took his alarm watch out of our room and put it in that room him. When he came in this morning he noticed it and asked why I had done that. I said well, aren't you living in there now? OH, ok and then tried to show like it really didn't bother him and sarcastically said why didn't you plug it in for me?
This will be a first that H takes the girls for an overnite thing..God only knows where they will be. This is what kills me and my one only freind that I can go out w/ will not be able to do something w/ me tonight!! I certainly do not want to be in this empty house tonight!!
I did a no-no (i know) and called left him a message that the kids better not be staying over at his GF house,but then later I called agin and left another message to diregard the last message tha I know I was mean and to make sure they be here early enough for church b/c they have an Easter show. I said I know you could care less about God, but I on the other hand was trying to instill in them some good values which is the opposite of his style of living.
