The eye of the hurricane may have arrived. Weird tranquility here. Last night spouse pops out with "my counselor says you and I have a very different idea of intimacy" (WTF????) Then she goes on to explain that was based on her reading my goals for our recent vacation and one of them was to get a kiss (I can dream) She said it would have been preferable to have a long talk under the stars. (great but I'm trying to lighten up and I DID ask you to come outside with me but you didn't come. It's easy to criticize me in retrospect. Heck, it seems easy to criticize me at any time) Anyway here's the real weirdness:
Spouse says we just speak different languages. I asked her if she had heard of "5 LL" and she said "I think so" (not that she'd go near a self help book!) Then she said "I want to learn to understand you but we're just so different and it's going to be hard as long as I have someone who speaks my exact language" (meaning OW) I sat there thinging WTF and trying not to look totally flumoxed. As per DB coach I should have said something in "reflective listeing" style but....WTF? She then went off to bed. I sat feeling criticized. Not necessarily valid but my feelings anyway...Resolved to figure out what OW says that is spouses "exact language". Talk about a bitter pill to swallow. We all have to at some time figure out what about OP we might consider adopting. (I can more easily list the NO F-ING WAY things but, I digress!)
Even wierder we are invited to a BBQ today. Spouse is coming when she gets off work. It's far from home and she already told me she is having a wretched work day but she is still coming. Will wonders never cease? I see this as her trying to do things she might have to force herself to do. A positive. Opinions?
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
