You've got it. No more R/M talk. Don't mention any changes you make (and by the way, make them only for YOU). I'll give you an example, the lovely LBS diet has left me 50lbs thinner. My ha has said nothing about my weight or the clothes I wear or when I wear make-up. Not one peep. Know what? That's fine, b/c I'm not doing it for him. I feel good and I look good and I focus on that.
If you're not ready to sell the house fine. You can drag you feet. There are others here much more experienced than me with this. As far as being "friends", they all seem to say that. There's a really good post on here (by Jack Three Beans) about that. If I may paraphrase, first you let them go, then you get to know them again , then you can start to become friends, then see where it leads. I think this is good b/c we don't know these people anymore and you wouldn't meet someone today and be "best friends".
This is all really hard, so post here often and if you need to vent....definately come here and do it (don't do it to him).
If you haven't read the stuff at the top of the list do that. You might also search for posts made by Was2sad, Rollercoasterride, Jack_Three_Beans and happy_again. There are so many who have valuable things to say so read away. It does help, I promise.
