In Bliss you are REALLY getting there. WELL DONE!!!!!
Thanks Jen I really think you're right. Not only am I handling things differently and better so is H which makes it so much easier. We are both like new people - it is amazing. H still sometimes acts the same but he hasn't had the DB help I've had!
H loved his surprise too but then I think he felt a little embarrassed as he hadn't got me anything for Easter yet. The old me would have probably sulked a little but the new me told him it didn't matter and he was enough. I think he liked that too.
Like you I am learning to be quiet about things that don't really matter when you compare them to your H leaving and also putting things differently. I feel so much better than the old me because it works for me as I don't get upset and cry and carry things on for ages and it works for H because he doesn't feel nagged! He he!! I think I'm really getting the hang of it. Also this morning I had a revelation of sorts. I started to get panicky about him staying out Thursday night and found my brain saying to itself that when H left there was no amount of persuading that could have changed his mind - even our S who he adores was not enough to make him stay in an unhappy M. So he is obviously happy and obviously in love with me and wants to be with me now because he's back and doing all the lovely things he did when I fell in love with him. So basically I have nothing to worry about!! I did it!! I put up that stop sign and thought about it rationally and it makes so much sense what I told myself! Hope everyone is having a lovely Easter holiday - what gorgeous weather here in UK!!
