She decided to move-back and give the R another chance.
The sexual issues reemerged--low frequency (she has higher drive and is less inhibited than I am). I went back to a therapist. It was always framed by her, that I was the one with intimacy issues. She failed to acknowledge any contribution to the problem...
We began to have sex on a more frequent basis. She still wasn't happy, saying that the quality needed to be better. The GW/sleeping elsewhere behavior began.
Physical and sexual intimacy goals will have to wait.
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Did you try JOINT counseling? If not, would she??? It obviously is not JUST YOU. I think it's hard to be intimate with someone who disappears 3 nights a week. Also, if she expresses dissatisfaction it's also difficult to want to try again....why would you if you only expect another rejection? Can you empower her in some way to teach you what she likes????? She should be able to help the quality and not just blame you!!!!
I don't mean to get too personal. Just trying to understand. M
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