Thank you all for your opinions on my sitch. After reading the many posts in this forum I know I am not alone with this. I openly admit my past mistakes in my M. However, it is so strange to see your spouse turn become an "alien" (boy, I hate to say that) before your very eyes.
I think you guys are correct. The most important thing for me to do now is to be strong and look out for my boys and myself. It's time to stop worrying about her. I must say though...I think when she does move out, away from her husband, boys, and home of 19 years and possibly her dog, she is going to freak out, to put it mildly.
In 20 years of marriage, yes there were times that I was less than happy, but I never even thought of just walking out on everything. Amazing.
