I only call so D can talk to her before going to bed. I don't even typically talk to her other than saying bye and then hanging up since D's too little to hang up the phone by herself.
OK, but apparently that one second on the phone saying "Bye" is enough to put you in a tailspin (according to your posts). If that's a trigger point for you, then let your D say "Bye" and then you just hang up...don't listen or say a thing.
Originally Posted By: StupidRomeo
I signed the divorce paperwork yesterday and yet I act/feel like she's still my wife - I don't know how to not feel that way.
Gosh, I'm not sure how to help you. You're hanging onto your failed M like grim death. You've gotten some good advice from others, but I wonder if it's doing any good. For example:
Originally Posted By: StupidRomeo
W's b.day is coming up, I'm trying to figure out what to get her if anything. On the one hand I feel she doesn't deserve anything from me for what she's doing but on the other hand she deserves a gift as a mother of my D.
Are you kidding? As the mother of your D, she deserves a gift from your D on Mother's day. She deserves no gift from you on her birthday, Mother's day, or any other holiday.
One thing I might suggest is to start forcing yourself to refer to her as "soon-to-be-ex-wife", "ex-wife", "X", or something similar to remind yourself that your relationship to her is changing or will change soon. This has helped some people detach (though it may be tempting, I do not recommend using other titles such as "that bitch" ).
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