Just getting started peicing it back together 2

[OldFool]

Thanks for the update. I've been wondering how you were doing.

The conselor we went to thought that it was too soon for us to start marriage conseling. She said we needed individual conseling first.

I think this is probably spot on and may be a good indication you have a C that will be good for you both. People with unresolved issues can't really work on an M successfully because the other problems sabotage the efforts expended on the M. As a result, I think this is a wise course of action.

...I thought things were going real good and I mentioned to my wife that I would move all my stuff back to the house and she asked why I wanted to rush things.

Whoa...patience there, fella. I agree with your W on this one. Until a good foundation is built, jumping back into things together could be counter-productive and lead one or both of you to engage in damaging behaviors. Let this go for a while. You've come this far, give the process a little more time to work. Remember, if you push too hard or too fast, you risk scaring her off.

I am wishing the best for you...patience for you, clarity for your W, and wisdom for your C.