COG - she knows you are a great dad (and a lot of other "great things" too from what you have told us) BUT, here is the kicker... is she just keeping you on the hook, so to speak, until the kids are gone? And then what? Will she say, "thanks for helping me bring the kids up, now I want my own life and it doesn't include you?

As much as your W and my H could have been from the same family, the one thing that is different is that we don't have any kids at home so it either survives between us, or it doesn't. At this point I can't tell (mainly because I am in a dark place right now and having a hard time pulling myself out - mainly due to my little "find" the other day, which you will be delighted to know, I have NOT said anything to him about but man, oh man, it's killing me)

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)