My marriage feels hopeless

[Elmrjfud]

ERC,

I say good for you !! it seems to me that a slight touch, a long look and using your shoulder as a book prop are all things she would do only if she didn't feel any tension at the moment... it is an inspiration to me that you were able to keep your cool about it. I was recently with my SO at a play and she rested her head on my shoulder for a few minutes during the intermission. i was overjoyed as it felt so "normal", i however did not keep my cool about it, i told her after the show how good and normal that moment was for me... i was such a schmuck.... you are a rock in comparison.

keep it up...

your C is just a paid opinion and everyone has their misperceptions, only you can be the true judge of whats really happening in your lives. I have not seen a C or MC (yet) and not to cast aspersions on yours, but coming from a teaching background i believe in positive reinforcement. if she actually just said "it doesn't look good" and offered no constructive, positive input to help you, you are probably paying her too much. just my humble opinion, no harm meant, hopefully she was more constructive than your email describes....