I am positive and friendly and that clearly disturbs her!! maybe I am hoping there but as dick is away I do have a more 'balanced' life than him in her eyes and I REMAIN SAMS DAD! I have to remind myself as well!!
YES YOU DO!!! And you will always be important to her no matter what. But my take is that while DD is away you need to be the one she can feel comfortable with...no R talk, no feeling depressed around her etc. She needs to see what she is losing. It is great that she is still involving you in Sam's bed etc and you have to realise that this will not be making DD happy although he cannot say that to her as he cannot show his true colours yet. I think this is true anyway. Keep being the "nice guy" and DD will start getting more and more bothered by her relationship with you...and I don't think that will go down too well with her in the long run.
Even if they do go away to a cottage, so what. In some respects it may be a good thing for them to have time together for a while so she can really see what she could end up with. I know how hard this is...I have struggled with it and my H ended up going to Vegas with OW for New Year!!! AAAARRRRGGGGHHHH! Of course to this day he doesn't know I know...... But in my heart I knew they had to spend some exclusive days together because the snatched days here and there could continue until reality starts to set in.
Keep the bird flying!
Me 36 ring on H 41 ring off S2 Together since 1992 Married: 2000 Bomb Aug 06 H moved out Oct 06 (and straight in with OW)
