Divorce 100% busted! - wish my brain realised it!

[Jen_Jam]

After you've done this a few times in response to his hanging out with his friends, he won't feel the urge to fight you so much to ask for time out and his need to spend time apart will diminish

I can vouch for this - i have seen it happen in my own M.
It's like H wants to know he can if he wants to, and that's enough for him.

For example, he wants to go out all night clubbing with one of his friends at some point. he mentioned doing it back in October. I said "fine" and he hasn't done it yet.

IP - I think with this one you're going to have to push your feelings aside for now, give in so that you can win a bigger prize later.

AND - what's wrong with you throwing H out of the house for the night now and then? Have a Body Shop party, or even an Anne Summers!! Both great nights and no men allowed, so it would be a good 180 for you to say to H "I'm having the girls round, would you mind going out for the evening?". Try it!!!