I am "releasing the caged animal" and it seems to be helping a whole lot in our M. H is definitely coming around in all areas (I think -- still no R talk from me!!).

Lou, thanks for all your input. I know you didn't expect answers, but I was kind of "thinking out loud" in response to your inquiries.

I did hit a low spot last night. I just got so tired of DB'ing all of a sudden, but I think it was just b/c I was so tired period. He made a comment and I went from about 60 to 0 in 1 second. He noticed too so I tried to get back to where I needed to be and things are fine today.

Won't be here over the weekend. H doesn't know anything about this website & I'm keeping it that way.

I'll check back in on Monday. One other note for those of you who don't know me from piecing, H is leaving on May 1 for a year deployment!! His movers came yesterday and I think it's finally hitting home. I am still keeping PMA that this year will actually be good for us. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and hopefully he will have time to finally look at himself and our sitch from a different viewpoint than he has been (everything has been my fault up to this point).

I still have no doubts that the D bomb happened for us at the exact time it needed to -- I definitely needed a wake up call, just wish it didn't have to be this extreme, but I've learned and am still learning and certainly will never forget lessons learned!


Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10