Dear J- I have had the same display name - funny you talk about similar sitches, if you don't go into details, any other sitch on these BBs sounds like one's own!!. You make a good point about emotions. I actually did go ahead and talk to my W (she was pushing real estate and stock investments saying that we were in crisis mode because she needed to move before the start of the next school year) about counseling. I said, our R is in a bigger crisis, and while I agree we need to work on finances (with her sickness, money and retirement have become the key concern for her), don't you think we should work on the R instead of putting issues on the backburner? Surprisingly, she agreed right away - I guess you never know until you ask. So, I am in the process of trying to sign up with the right counselor. Any advice out there - I used the DB coaches about 6 times by myself. I have been looking at them again, a guy called Mort Fertel (again, telephone counseling) and want to compare them with counseling face-face. Does anyone out there have recommendations? I believe counseling is going to be very critical for us - my W needs to let go of the past before we can move forward, and I want to make sure that I do the right things to help her with that.
While I am not keen on commuting for another 18 months, I know a number of people that do, and have healthy marriages. And if this helps with early retirement for my W, I think that is best overall for the whole family..
