NEW THREAD FOR 2940 --- HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[iluvme]

PennyMb, thanks girlfriend! That is so empowering.

Tam, I have been following your thread. You are on a crazy emotional rollercoaster. You are barely functioning right now. We feel your pain. Some of us is right where you are at. We know how gut wrenching it is to watch your H fall for someone else. It is unbelievable that they could change like that. But please listen to these good folks. You really need help professionally. Get your meds re-evaluated.

We don't want you to spiral out of control. Penny gave some really good advice for us strugglers here. You just got to push forward and think positive. Don't depend on H to dictate your happiness. You are such a strong woman. You are successful and ambitious with a loving heart. You have passion for your work and your relationships. Start forming your own circles. Don't include H and his family at all. No Easter dinner or luncheon with them. Travel out of the area if you have to. Take yourself out of the environment that is crippling you. It's not running away but removing yourself from the toxicity. It seems like a really silly piece of advice but when you act happy, you'll start feeling happy, and you will believe it too.

I have tried it and have to say it works. I do backslide and very guilty of PennyMB's #5 of getting family involved. But I do have some great friends who tell it like it is. It feels like tough love and hurts like hell. But tomorrow is another day. It will get better. Just wipe the slate clean and start fresh tomorrow.

Bless you sweetie. Get off the rollercoaster. Pay for an extra session with therapist if you have to on coping. Stay in touch.