1-Stop the cycle of compulsive lying (possible?)...I have brought up counseling, which he flatly rejects. Are there other options? 2-Respect our vows and me at all times in all places...don't do or say anything he wouldn't do or say if I were standing next to him. 3-Return to activity in our religion...LONG road there--he's facing excommunication. 4-Be open...prove to me there's nothing to hide by providing access to email and phone accounts, tell me when something happens he knows would concern me. 5-Look for new employment opportunities...the company he works at now is owned by a crook. Not exactly an atmosphere that inspires ethical living.
To me, the outrageous thing about this list is that none of these things are unrealistic to expect in a marriage (or shouldn't be). But I'm afraid I'm asking too much...what does that say about me? And him?
