Originally Posted By: 30andLost
...the new me is able to challenge my feelings and gain persepctive on them for what they really are. Then, and only if they are feelings that I need to share with her, I am able to COMMUNICATE with her what I am feeling and why. She is also comfortable communicating her feelings on a given situation and why or what she is feeling so that I can gain an even better perspective on my feelings.

Way to go! You should be proud of your progress.

Originally Posted By: 30andLost
We haven't ML yet because she is still battling the images of the OW in her head, which I understand and respect. What helps me is that she says she REALLY wants to ML to me but she needs to get a handle on the images so she doesn't ruin things. I really want her to ML to me and only me without the thoughts of the OW, so I'm more than willing to wait.

Good. You're going to have to let her figure out how to deal with this. My WAW left me with a horrible set of images of her and the OM in our house. I have no reason to believe I'll ever have to confront them, but if by some miracle we end up together, I'll somehow have to figure out how to deal with them (not exactly sure how I'll do that).

Originally Posted By: 30andLost
She has said that the minute we get to our hotel room we are going to ML and make up for lost time. I told her to be sure to let me know if she still isn't ready and that I'm not going to hold her to anything she has said.

Another good move. It was kind of her to say it...but it may not happen and even if it does, she may find it's harder to deal with than she thinks.

Originally Posted By: 30andLost
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All good signs. I'm so happy for your personal progress and for the progress you've made with regard to your W and M. Keep it up. There is every reason to believe we'll be hearing more good news from you in the future. \:\)