My W took a break from her sleeping elsewhere behavior, until it resumed this week.
I've been suspicious of an OP since 10/06. The sleeping elsewhere behavior escalated into Ghost Wife (GW) behavior for several months. It diminished back into sleeping elsewhere behavior this past month.
I have been taking a stand for my M, however I can't live like this forever. I'm thinking of giving this one year to see if things improve.
I think you've ALREADY taken far more of a "stand" and far more sh&t than you should have. She is sleeping elsewhere?? WTF?? If my wife did not come home ONE night, I'd give her hell, same her for me. Are you a couple or not? Are you a TEAM or not? ASK her WTF is going on.
[/quote] My struggle now is to determine how much connection do I allow, and how much distance do I maintain? It seems that even though there is likely an OP, [/quote]
Likely?? ASK HER. If it is, do the one legged-hop while booting her ass out the door.
[/quote]it seems that maintaining some positive connection will in the long run, be a determining factor in moving the R into Piecing.[/quote]
I disagree. To me, "it seems that she is F5cking you around, big time. Step outside your sitch. If I saw you on the street and said, "Hey Jim, my wife is only sleeping at home 3 nights out of 30. What do you think is going on?" What would you say?? 27 nights at even $60/night is 1620/month on Hotel rooms. Does she have that kind of cash to blow?? If not, she is with someone else......and has not told you..so, why would you WANT her back??
I would ask you this. Are you a good person?? Have you tried your best? Do you feel you deserve better??
