I didn't want to be "just the mom," but felt that that was what I was supposed to be doing. Well, almost everyone wants to be more than just the ______
(June cleaver) and that's not me AT ALL. (Ok, showing my age) How about "the lone Ranger pre-TV, on radio? Now I am showing my age.
June Cleaver is a myth like Betty Crocker, a composite of "Ideals" do you want to hear what my ideal W would look and act like. I won't tell you. She might exist but I stilll have the W I married in 1968. Ideals are for TV programs, with writers, editors, acting coaches, ratings experts. I don't know any marriages that have that large a staff.
I still likes Ozzy & AC/DC I like Queen, ELO, James Last, a few Operas, many classical, and some performers before my time. Moms, dads, W's and H's can like a variety of music.
I am hopeful that w/ all of the positive changes Good, but know most improvements like you are having now, there can be times when it is back to the old R with you or your H feeling low. Don't let the lows bother you so much and if it happens or you want to log your progress, post on the forum anytime.
thanks for any input and all the advice that has been given. I truly appreciate it!!!! Some of my suggestions are light duty or what work or didn't work for me. Lots of good advice from some more knowledgable people than me if you want it and stick around.
If I may suggest some books, the first one would be to read the host of this web site book, "The Divorce Remedy" by Michelle W Davis. Look at the home page and snoop in the on-line store. I bought the "Keep Love Alive" (KLA) CD set for $50. I listen to the CD's but my W doesn't. same with the books I bought.
Other books by John Gottman and David Schnarch are forun favorites.
If you want a book list and some links to MP3/iPOD audio that is downloadable. someone can post those links too.
Think of books as helpers and or ammunition to keep the progress going. Don't rule out counseling, even if it is for one person in the R. I go.
