Danu is right, no expectations. It's hard, but it really will help you. Was there some way you could have reached the fan yourself or figured another solution? Sorry, but I don't see how going to your Mom's did anything for YOU. Did you sleep better or did you stay angry? What does it mean for you that your mom now gives her blessing to leave him?
One of the things I've taken on is doing everything for myself. I was always pretty good about doing what I could, but now unless I need financial or some other info that he has and I don't....I don't ask. This included shutting down my business and moving everything out of my shop. It includes all the maintenance on the house and yard. And you know what? He may notice, but he doesn't say anything. You've got to do it for you.
