You need to have NO EXPECTATIONS. My H was never selfish until he hit MLC, and I had to stop asking him to do anything, because he'd complain if I did. I left him alone as much as possible, but was available when he wanted to be with me. Now, with that said, he did leave me and move in with OW. I also am struggling to let go and let God. We have no idea what they'll do, so, to save my sanity I took the advice I found here and kept my expectations at zero. It did help me.
Danu
Everything happens for a reason, and through this journey I will learn many things about myself
