Always:
Thanks for your support. It's nice to know I'm not the one who's nuts, even though I feel like that sometimes.

COG:
As usual, you are right-enough dwelling on the past. I did what I could, but there's only so much I can do. At some point, I do need to just MOVE ON. Thanks also for your kind words about my kids' love for me. Sometimes, I really just feel like the worst mother, partly because I'm feeling so down lately. And of course, H's GF is super-happy b/c she's in love with my husband!! She is so much fun, fun, fun!!

Mermaid:
I admire your perseverance so much. I know that some people are able to have a life w/o D, but I don't think I'm one of them. I am just clinging on to hope and it is keeping me mired in the past, the "could have beens." It is not healthy.

I really don't know if my H will ever come out of this. He is really far gone. How do I know he isn't really happy? Maybe he is. Who am I to assume it's just a mask?

AMD:
I had forgotten about that poem, and it was just what I needed. I will print it out-thanks. Sorry I've been neglecting you. I'm having trouble finding supportive things to say to people lately.

Althea:
First, I have to tell you how wonderful your newest sweaters are. They would be impressive even if they were normal-sized, but to look at them up close and then see them in your hand--truly amazing! You are something (in a good way, lol).

I have briefly thought about what you said before, but not given it much credence. It is possible, though, that this marriage was never going to be "saved." How do I know? I wish God would just send me an email or something--something totally 100% clear!! Nicola-this is it. Or Nicola-be still, he'll come back (after doing a whole bunch of work on himself, of course). Thanks for this; it means a lot to me to know that I've helped people here.

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