Help me

[stubborn]

Ever notice how fast the weather can change? As you will recall I was hit with a very cold front for suggesting that spouse and I go to the store to haggle over a refrigerator w/o D7. BRRRRRRRR!!!!! Bad, Stubborn, bad!!! How dare you suggest such a thoughtless thing?!?!? (and why are we buying a new refrigerator if you don't know what our future holds?)

so...spouse and I went to the store last night. Alone, unaccompanied by D7, who stayed with a relative. Hmmmmmmm...I said nothing about this for fear of decapitation.

On another note, I had a phone session with DB coach Jody yesterday. A bit of stratgizing and a bit of reiterration of things: People having affairs are unbelievably self-centered. All DB actions must first be put through the filter of "how will this help me meet my goal?" or as she said "will this make me more or less attractive?" Spouse is highly conflicted (knew that already) I need to continue GAL and find a way to get spouse to think "what is she up to?" so as to turn her focus back toward me.

This has been going on so long that I am tired and honestly don't know where it will end up. Do I think it could still be "busted"? Yes, but not unless both parties are willing to work. I have worked alone for a year and sometimes I have just had it. Sometimes I think a major earthquake is all that will move the spouse in my direction. And yet I realize I am better off than some, spouse has not left and cannot bare the thought of deserting D7. Me, however, she often thinks she can do without. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr