I now know that H is supposed to come before kids and I'm making sure that that is happening. That is almost right Cadesmom34. I think it is a combination of putting each other first, the marriage first, then the kids up there some place.
I take care of the kids and H takes care of me, but no one was "taking care of" H. Wrong answer, I know!! Sounds like you understand what got out of order. You are a fast learner.
Ok, now, how graphic can we get here? As graphic as you can stand. We have posted it all.
One rule is, you don't post graphic things to pick-up guys. Just kidding but serious.
One question to think about, Is oral what he wants?
It is important to some guys but consider the fact that some guys want their W to have a good time too. I don't know what your pleasure experiences have been in the past, so will start with the basics. How much pleasure do you get from having sex with your H? How do you show it? Do you send out clues he can read?
I ask these things, not for answers for myself, but for you to think about. I ask because of my marital/sexual situation with my W. I might like a BJ but right now it would be more enjoyable if she had an O or got really excited during sex.
I don't expect my w to have an O, but it would be nice. BTW, I have my fun/pleasure but something is missing. Maybe your H feels some of the things I have felt.
Remember sex often times is more than getting off for some guys. It is about making and exchanging some intimate times and shared feelings.
If you can't get there ("O") don't worry. Making progress to stabilize he M is a big job right now. The improvements need to be worked out one at a time.
