Tam...if the information he needs or you have is time sensitive then by all means call and discuss it...then you end the call...no asking "how are you"..."where have you been"..."haven't seen you in a while"..."what's up with you"
He might be angry, he might be confused, he might be trying to flush you out of the bushes too...it is OK for him to feel left out of your loop...it is even ok for him to feel a little rejected by you...after all isn't that what he has done to you???Let's not forget that when our S's decided to have an A (if they did)that initially we were hurt and angry...we might have wanted to walk away right then and there...I know my first reaction was "I am filing for divorce, you gave me grounds."...then after a cooling off we start to "THINK"...he needs to feel emotions before he can start to "THINK"...so let him be...it may appear that this will make him closer to OW but in reality it will allow him to look at her as he should....a BandAide....
Also...I know some of us have a glass of wine to relax...I purposely didn't mention this as a relaxation tool for you because you are taking so many different medications...all that can be effected by alcohol and I am afraid that even one glass or one drink casually at dinner might be a bad mix for you...for now stick to warm milk and decaf teas...avoid caffiene especially later in the day as this can also effect your ability to wind down...even if it didn't before...just your emotional state now and/or the medications your taking could be making you hypersensitive to caffiene or any other stimulants/stimulation...so for now, work on self relaxation methods...focus on positive things...work on blocking negative things out...
I even quit watching the news and reading the news paper because there was just too much sadness in all of it...and I had enough of my own...
