After all, if a guy is having problems sexually and he can get a hot babe to satisfy him, why would he bother coming home to the old wife?
Well, maybe we need a new vision of ourselves. Maybe if we see ourselves as "the old wife" "the old H", then we'll be "the old...." Men are visual creatures. We see a hot babe and we can drop everything, take ten minutes, have sex with her, not know her name, not care what her name is, not care if we ever see her again, then pull up our pants and get back to painting the barn. That's how we're constructed. Now I don't know your particular sitch. But the more YOU can do to become visually different, maybe that might help get some attention. But just know, that he'll probably be visually stimulated by other women, it's just a fact of life. That does'nt mean he's going to make the choice to be with OW. He loves you, he wants to be with YOU! Don't let that fact get buried underneath your anxiety, anger, resentment, and selfishness.
OK, now chill out!
Love,
COG
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