Please tell me there is a happy ending!?!?!

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R2,
Ok, the converstaion, yes it affects you, but since you have been doing DB'ing you are stronger and not letting your emotion fly in front of XH... that is why he is probably thinking it doesn't affect you. Can they really be that dumb???

Questions, I know right now with my own H, he hates questions. H has told me blank point. You ask too many questions. B/c really they need to come to you and talk... I think it works. Ask 1 question and if you notice they say "nothing" or "everythings all right" then stop asking. Give them some space and they will come to you and open up... I think maybe it is a control thing... they want to start the converstaion and it has to be on their terms. Does that make sense???

I don't know if you should tell XH this about you right now. B/c the NC just stopped. see how things play out in the next few weeks/months... and then let's talk about it.

Normal --what is the definition of Normal? I would like to know. I guess that all depends on the person and/or couple. What you two did/do together is it NORMAL for you guys? maybe look from that standpoint.

As for never going out to eat to a "sitdown" restaurant, that is a bit strange. I don't think XH was ashamed, but then again I don't know for sure. DO you really believe he was ashamed of you? Is XH shy? doesn't like large crowds? b/c I know going out at night there are a LOT more people. Just something to think about. did you ever ask to go out on a night to a sitdown restaurant?

I know I over think things. Maybe that is what is going on right now. I know you are a "why" kind of girl and want to know all the answers and/or reasons. I think that is a woman trait. we try to figure things out and talk about them... where as MOST men they want to do it on their own.

Keep DB'ing and doing what you are doing. it seems to be working. XH broke the NC first!!!

Have a GREAT EASTER!!! and as for the basket, that is up to you!