I get it! I really do! I have to let go! I know! My H used to say you can't live by what if's and it holds true here!!
I love your motto! I think I will adopt that myself if you don't mind!!

Me - 44
H - 44
M - 19yrs
together - 23yrs
D16
S8
EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07
H still @ home
Recovered!

"Do or do not, there is no try" Yoda