I was hoping you could help me with something since you seem to have incredible insight. I posted this on piecing, but just in case you don't see it ...
You briefly know my sitch and that this is the second go-around for me regarding infidelity on my H's part - both times with escorts (which is a whole issue in itself)
H has been somewhat obsessed that his encounters with OW(particularly the last one) were productive and that he was just trying to "help her" get out of her situation. To some degree I believe him. He has always had that type of personality - helping the underdog so to speak - and he has some guilt issues regarding his own two daughters, which to me just amplifies this sitch all the more.
Anyway, he has been searching, off and on, the personals to see if OW is still posting her ad. Well, I couldn't sleep last night and started thinking about it. Being I am much better on the computer than he is, by a long shot, I thought I would do some of my own searching and guess what I found, an escort website that had a link to her page. There were numerous guys that had put postings on the board saying they had gone to see her and they gave their comments about her (which weren't as discussing actually as I thought they would be) They actually said some pretty decent things about her. Unfortunately, I also saw her picture which just burns in my memory now (all the more reason to feel insecure and inadequate - she's a perky 25 year old with a great body - how can I compete?)
So, there's the question. Should I burst my H's bubble and let him know she is still "working" or just let it go and have him continue to keep checking to confirm (in his mind) that all their "talks" and his powers (*chuckle*) helped her get away from the business?
I would appreciate your opinion
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
