Oh boy....are we ridin on the li'l yellow school bus again
Geez Liss.....
I personally think, you should start by telling us YOUR fears first. If you ask the question, then you too shall have to answer it.
Fear comes in many forms. It is an emotion. Anger comes in many forms, it too is an emotion. Our lives our built around emotions, especially now. I guess this is why they call MLC a "emotional rollercoaster". Even the process of getting divorced without a MLC'er involved is ugly.
My first response would be. Fear of the unknown. But I thought about it, and realized that prior to this D, I was never fearful of the unknown, I embraced it. So X'ed that off.
I'm not angry anymore, X'ed it off.
I've forgiven him, and have asked for forgivness X'ed off.
So all I have to say I would like the li'l yellow school but do for me.....is give me one last chance, then I shall be able to move forward.
SMOOCH
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
I fear that Javier waited this long to start the D b/c of the NJ law, and not b/c he was confused.
I fear that My kids, will have another hard blow with the D discussion, and then meeting the OW (Annie says I am gettiing a head of myself) But that is my biggest fear.
I fear that when Javier finds out what I am entitled to, with this D, he will hate me even more, and that will bring him closer to OW.
I fear, that he will not want another failed R, so he will work very hard at his R with OW.
I fear, that He will really never regret what he has done, he will live happily ever after with out me, and do all the things WE planned with someone else.
I fear that this pain will never go away
“Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.”
Lis, Remember Christmas week? That did not happen because of NJ law. He was confused. And I bet OW doesn't know he cheated on her with you. You tell me... does this sound like a R built on stability and trust and love? No. So run over those fears with a big, fat SPLAT!
As far as your kids, that is a legitimate fear. All you can do is minimize their pain. Read and learn about children and D. I have a few books if you're interested. Get them into therapy. And also, try to find things that will make the kids happy. Maybe you plan a little trip with the three of you or you go away with your parents or your brothers with your kids.
As for the pain... you may always feel some pain. But it will NOT be the stinging, stabbing pain that it is now. I am SURE of that. You will work through the pain and you will move forward. You will find happiness again. Again, I'm SURE of that. So, give that one a big, fat SPLAT, too.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
That she won't wake up. That the kids will never know her again. That she may become involved in the drug scene.
That's about it, I am way past anger and sadness. I see that she may never return and I guess I am OK with that. I have a future and I am walking into it without fear for myself.
Lissie, it's good to see you getting into a better place, I was starting to worry about you.
Lis - about your kids, check into their school or church to see if they offer programs for kids from split homes. About a month ago, out of the blue, the school sent home a flyer about support groups for kids dealing with separation, whether it be parents who are separated/divorced, parents off to war....
(((((((((LIS)))))))))
I know my H isn't in MLC (although he has a few signs) but my fear is that his pride will override his will to come back home ...
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
I fear she will never wake up. I fear that the love I have for her will die and THEN she'll wake up. I fear that this is the rest of my life. Without her.
"I made the wall of shadow draw back, beyond desire and act, I walked on.
Oh flesh, my own flesh, woman whom I loved and lost, I summon you in the moist hour, I raise my song to you."
I fear that I will never find the right dress to go to this stupid prom in and before you all get mad and yell at me about how this is serious...let me explain.
See...in all honesty...this is a fear that has a deeper root than just a dress for a prom that I am too old to really worry about. It's a small thing that hides the big thing...
What if I never find a person to wear the right dress for? What if this was it? I am not afraid to do things by myself or even to be alone. I am afraid of "what if this is it" what if I am not meant for more? What if I don't know how to find a companion or what if I was never meant to have one? What if I never have sex again (hey...it's a real fear)what if what I had was it? What if I have to start collecting cats and I am that little old woman who was content to live in the cat fille dhouse all alone becuase she was too afraid to ever try again?
