so, with these ssm's, as mine could have been called before the B, is it because we just don't elicit that sort of response--meaning, we just don't do it for them anymore? Yet, in Christian terms, doesn't His word say He will restore tenfold what has been taken away (or something like that without me looking it up)? Since Love is a choice, not a feeling, is sex the same way? Are all the trust and/or other issues dealt with? I know, in my case, resentment and unexpressed anger dampened a lot of the times i spent with my H until he stopped trying...i so wish i could have "do-overs"! jacqm
